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  • Online dating is probably a bad idea. I’m pretty sure the number one criteria is looks, because that’s all you really have to go on for the most part.

    If you care about more than just looks, meeting people in person is going to be the way to go.

    I guess if you are an introvert you might struggle in person, but the connections you do make will be that much more valuable.

    A lot of connections online are superficial and if you can delete your whole relationship with someone with one click of a button, you probably didn’t have any kind of authentic relationship in the first place.


  • I don’t think I understand what you are saying. Data does exist.

    Taller men are generally seen as more attractive.

    Wealthier people, or people who pay attention to the latest trends in general are seen as more attractive.

    Healthy and fit people are generally seen as more attractive.

    All of this is true, but so what. If someone is hyper focused on getting a man or woman to be with them who has these or other specific physical and / or socioeconomic traits, isn’t that for them to decide?

    If you only want to date women who have been on the covered of the sports illustrated swimsuit edition, isn’t that your choice also?

    What’s your point?








  • I can’t remember which app it was, but I tried online dating over a decade ago. I noticed I wasn’t getting very many responses to any messages I sent out, and it was basically after saying yes to everyone and I had spent some time on the app, so I got to the point where I just messaged everyone a generic opener….

    I talked to my female roommate at the time and I got a couple generic photos of her, she was a young mid 20’s woman who was very pretty but idk average for a young beautiful woman.

    I created a new profile for myself, and also a second profile for her, I let her choose the most attractive photos of me and I chose some dorky not very attractive but still cute I guess photos of her….

    She had ten messages before we were even able to upload the first photo after just creating the account.

    This doesn’t mean that she got messages from guys who were someone she would consider dating. It just means she got a lot of messages. I think guys don’t realize how many messages the women get. They have to wade through hundreds of “hi how are you doing” messages before they can even start a conversation. Whereas the guys have to send out messages that are unique and capture the attention of ladies to get a conversation started. Neither is ideal, it’s just how it is





  • Shock value gets upvotes and downvotes.

    There was a famous radical feminist from decades ago who argued all men should be killed. I don’t think she was relevant during twitter or in the recent internet… if she had been, idk 🤷‍♂️

    I think the problem with some of these issues is that there are academic theories that are being discussed, which end up getting reduced by non academics and applied to specific individuals.

    In the men’s rights forums it becomes men and boys are being left behind, this gets turned into pointing at a specific woman and blaming her.

    Likewise in feminist ideology there is the idea of the patriarchy, this gets turned into some people pointing fingers at specific men and blaming them.