I’ll be honest with you; I usually have something to say in terms of advice of how to do better, how you might be the asshole, or moral considerations, but this time around, I’ve got nothing. You were honest, gave solutions that appear to work for your situation, and are honest enough with others around you that you maintain your moral obligations. Not really a ton you can do in said situation, but from what information is given you did your part. I appreciate your effort to not abdicate moral responsibility for personal comfort/desire.

The reason I’m leaving a comment is just to say that that really sucks, man. From what I understand, it’s definitely not your fault. You’ve done right by what is in your control, and I think that’s the thing that matters most. I hope things improve for you, but regardless of whether they do or don’t, keep fighting the good fight.