The plebs must not be able to talk to each other. Interfere with their conversations. Mediate them, distort them, insert your signal (theirs is the noise!), repackage them for other plebs so those plebs don’t start conversation of their own. The plebs must not be able to talk to each other.

sharing - this one is key. I use a shared shopping list and we both need to add and edit.

https://etherpad.org/

Get jotting with your friends in seconds: https://pad.disroot.org/

Lots of banned artist and album names that will return zero results, unless you do something like search for a song or two that’s on the album you want and finding the data that way.

The only objectionable hurdles are the insurmountable ones

Context is king. If there’s vital/time-dependent correspondence you’re waiting on, notifications can matter. But email in 2024 is pretty darn transactional, in which case a daily check is enough for most. Notifications for something suggest that I need to drop what I’m doing and attend to whatever arrived. That just doesn’t apply for service provider marketing, purchase receipts, etc.

And then the opsec angle comes into play: https://www.axios.com/2023/12/06/apple-google-requests-push-notification-data

Notifications are overrated. I turn them off for the bulk of apps.

Devote one or two small time windows each day for life admin. Outside those windows it shouldn’t be seen or heard.

As an experiment, take any remux from your collection and encode it by dividing the raw video bitrate by 2.5

What you’ll invariably find:

• Perceptible quality degradation at 100 per cent scale: 0%
• " @ 200 per cent scale: <1%
• Space saving: >50%

Bots aren’t the problem. You mistake the tool for its operator by cursing a bot. If I had a specific purpose for a bot, I’d use one. The difference between my using a bot and a clickfarmer using a bot is that I wouldn’t treat Lemmy instances as a resource to be exploited (and ultimately ruined). Such an attitude would inform the how and the what behind my bot use.

The problem as always comes back to bad incentives, bad design and bad behaviour.

If you agreed to host her collection carte blanche, that’s your failure to manage expectations.

The better approach would have been to make an X GB partition (whatever you’re comfortable allocating) say there’s a specific amount of space available for family use. When it fills up it fills up.